I’ve noticed that “life” likes to test me when I’ve been triggered by something. By “triggered” I mean a situation that upsets me.
Here’s how it happens:
The triggering situation happens and instantly negative feelings and emotions arise –misunderstanding, frustration, anger, or hurt. It’s that feeling inside that “doesn’t feel right.” We’ve all felt it.
The situation could range from a rude remark, a disagreement, or a betrayal. Imagine finding out you’ve been lied to, or you can’t seem to agree with your partner on something important, or a friend says something rude to you.
You feel all the “feels”- rage, disappointment, embarassment, frustration, confusion, heartache, and exhaustion.
Eventually the feelings subside and you may find a new perspective on the situation that triggered you. The tears stop and the rage calms. Maybe a friend says something helpful, you receive a heartfelt apology, or find it within yourself to not allow this situation to affect your happiness.
Either way, you have a new perspective on the situation.
Here’s the tricky part – life will test you to see if you can continue this new perspective and not go back to feeling all the negative feels. In order to test this, you may experience the same situation that triggered you, or something similar.
Almost as if life says:
Let’s see how you handle it this time!
Do you go back to feeling rage, disappointment, embarassment, frustration, confusion, heartache, and exhaustion?
Or do you move forward and put it in the past?
What do you do when you find yourself being triggered?
Have you ever felt like saying, “let’s see how you handle it this time?”
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